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First Class Passenger Rant Sparks Flight Attendant Fury

“You feel such a need to be served that you’re asking someone else to come over and lay out one single blanket.”

If flying Business is like slurping Vodka, flying First is like sipping a Martini: pretty much the same, just more pretentious.

Despite this, many first-class passengers lie (flat) under the illusion they are entitled to regal service. And when they don’t get it, they get shitty.

Much like the dude who quizzes the waiter on what their favourite is, and takes offence if they don’t get simpering smiles the rest of the night, there are some first-class passengers who don’t understand – no matter how much you’re paying – special treatment is earned, not bought.

That’s not to say you don’t have the right to expect friendly treatment. But special treatment comes from successfully building rapport. And if you don’t get it, it’s an indictment on your social skills rather than the airline.

While we don’t know if the business class flyer who tells the following story is one of those people, we do know his rant raises a few interesting questions around this topic. So: here goes. Here is how one frequent premium-class flyer drew the ire of an air hostess.



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Taking to his website One Mile At A Time, aviation blogger Ben Schlappig recently complained about American Airlines’ “embarrassing” international first-class service: “I have low expectations when it comes to service on American, though I couldn’t believe how bad the service was in first class.”

“You have two flight attendants taking care of just eight people, and despite that, I’ve had better service in economy class.”

In the blog post, he calls out American Airlines’ cabin crew’s staff’s lack of: complete sentences, willingness to divulge their first names and manners, and abundance of impatience and guilt-tripping.

In response, a commenter who claims to be a flight attendant hit back at each claim in the comments, inspiring a follow-up article where Ben dealt with each of her excuses.

We’ll break it down part by part. First up: complete sentences. Ben claims, “I mentioned how I didn’t receive any sort of greeting, and my first interaction with a flight attendant was 10 minutes after boarding, when I got an ‘orange juice, water, or champagne.'”

However, according to the flight attendant in the comments, first-class passengers are their own worst enemies.


“I usually try to start with ‘would you like any-‘ but sometimes, when the passenger two rows away thinks his coat will catch fire if he has to wait for me to put down my tray, I’m in a rush.”

On this point, it seems Ben is right: airlines should be able to deal with a few bad apples and not let that spoil everyone else’s experience.


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On to the next: not sharing first names, a topic which the flight attendant says is a security risk, and which Ben dismisses as ridiculous (he ironically calls it a “huge” security risk).

“For security reasons, a lot of FAs will never give out their name or the name of any other crew member,” the flight attendant wrote.

“Think that isn’t a security issue? I know at least two FAs who’ve had passengers show up at the door of their hotel rooms after conning the front desk into telling them the room number.”

Ben’s response: “I don’t for a moment deny there are creeps out there (though any hotel staff that gives away a room number based on a first name should be fired immediately), but if we have gotten to the point where sharing a first name is a security risk, why hasn’t the union demanded change from management? Flight attendants have badges with their names, so shouldn’t they not be wearing these?”


For us, there are two clashing points. One: you can’t force a connection with someone. And two: telling passengers your name is a fairly standard way of personalising the inflight experience (even in Business and Economy, let alone First).

As we weren’t there though, we can’t claim to know whether this was a case of a passenger wrongly assuming paying (or upgrading) to first-class meant the flight attendants were obliged to humour his ego (and thus tried to get too personal too quick) or whether it was simply a rude or overworked flight attendant.

Then came the third complaint: not being greeted by name. As Ben writes: “I didn’t even necessarily expect to be addressed by name, though I didn’t even get a ‘sir.’ Apparently addressing someone by name even once is completely impossible…”

To which the flight attendant responded: “Greeting you by name. I don’t. I’m not even going to apologize for it. I say Sir and Miss. Because I do several flights a week, usually in large cabins. Half the time people move without telling us so the manifest is wrong. I know for a FACT, I won’t remember your name the whole flight.”

“I have a lot of other things on my mind.”

On this one we have to side with Ben: not name-remembering is ok in Economy, borderline in Business and unacceptable in First.


Ben’s final complaint was about the rushed “turndown” service. To which the flight attendant responded: “I know that airlines offer it. I know we are expected to do it. And I will do my job if it is requested. But any person with fully functioning limbs who asks for a turndown service on a non-luxury airline is an ASSHOLE.”

“You feel such a need to be served that you’re asking someone else to come over and lay out one single blanket.”


The horrors of an improperly “turned down” bed…

While we personally would be embarrassed to ask for a turndown service (even if it was advertised), we agree with Ben that it is a flight attendant’s job to navigate these requests (and clients) in a pleasant manner and to not take their frustration out on other passengers.

However, in this case, there is no mention of rudeness – only of the bed not being turned down to perfection. And really – considering you’re flying American Airlines – we’d say this is the weakest of Ben’s complaints. If you want top first-class service book a top-end airline.

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  • Ivan Stephen

    Not to pick nits, but the word is “indictment”. Yes, English is not always logical.

  • jbelkin

    you can upgrade but you can’t buy class

  • stan t

    Number one: regardless of what you think of Americans level of service if you are paying $8k for a CHEAP transatlantic flight in F you are paying for first service. You don’t need to be on a middle East flag carrier to expect to get what you pay for.

    Number two: the things Ben is expecting us NOT special treatment. It’s treatment one would regularly expect in F.

  • Bernard Butler

    I work in the hospitality industry and Ben sounds like a pompous “FIRST CLASS ASSHOLE”..

  • joann

    I am fortunate to be able to fly first class majority of the time and seem some people sit in first class and act like they’re the only one there. Its Ridiculous on what some people ask for. The FAs are not there to kiss your ass. Yes you do get certain perks but come on stop acting like a child whose never been out in public.. My beef with some of these bloggers is they go looking for problems or create them to get a story. Half the time they didnt pay for the flight, so sit, act like an adult, keep your feet on the floor, not on the walls, and relax!!!!!

  • MichaelFarese

    This story is SO old.

  • afo

    Ben’s requests and expectations were not unreasonable,especially considering that he was flying with a first class ticket; regardless of the airline carrier.

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  • Samuel Louis Enmon II

    I did service industry for 20 yrs. She should know his name. She should have a name tag.

  • A Freedom Fighter

    Let’s face it. Flying ain’t what it used to be no matter what class you book. Heck, I remember when coach had leg room, free hot meals and enough flight attendants to give everyone good friendly service.

  • A1957

    Bens expectations were not unreasonable but blogging about them makes him a certifiable A-hole.
    I always try to treat anyone in the service industry better than they try to treat me. Sometimes I win but I never lose.

  • riverhorse

    American Airlines? What a misnomer- does it even hire true Americans or polite folk these days? Minority Surliness is more like it.

  • riverhorse

    Employee must always be professional- and not envious of someone with disable income.

  • Ida j

    True Americans??? A true American is a Native American (Indian Looking) or do u refer to a white girl. Minority? U mean they’re hiring black people now or non whites?? Comments like yours make me sick

  • Fuzi0719

    Sounds more like a standard American Airlines b**chy flight attendant. Such an attitude wouldn’t have a job on any other REPUTABLE airline. B’ch, your JOB is to provide turndown service when asked, not to throw shade. Your JOB is to be polite and not a sullen a**hole. If you can’t do your JOB, go somewhere else. Given the cost of those first class tickets, I and anyone else paying for them expect you to DO YOUR JOB.

  • riverhorse

    The Indians are mostly gone(so are the Neanderthals, Denisovans, Babylonians, Phoenicians, etc. you didn’t know this?) And most of the few Indians that remain are Sovereign, don’t want to mix.
    So, WHO do YOU think became AMERICAN (creating this GREAT country) since??!??!!? And in sufficient numbers that i can refer to?
    FYI i have blood descendants of 6 countries_and their passports- + #7, US for having been fortunate enough to be born here. I have white, black and Indian siblings BTW.
    I am American only, i bleed red white and blue THOUGH.
    AND, I have the right to call a spade a spade. This means: being a TRUE AMERICAN is a state of mind: work hard, treat others as you wish to be treated, etc. So no parasites, knuckleheads, ill-tempered Miserables, etc.
    1. Anyone who self-identifies as a minority, rather than an American, while also complaining about not being included…is a misfit plus either ignorant or has an unpatriotic or scheming agenda.
    2. Yes, America has been a tapestry, BUT a tapestry of “the creme de la creme possessing ideal common goals and beliefs”.

    You seemingly propose a tapestry just for tapestry’s sakes, and are equating demanding professionalism critiquing bad performance as “sickening”?
    Isn’t this undermining the fabric of our great tapestry… unpatriotic???!?!?

    Your beliefs are very dangerous TODAY. From a half century ago and more, the middle classes were decimated in many regions of the world. So skilled, hard working, upright people had no future- and thus were attracted to here. TODAY, with a few exceptions, most countries have flourishing middle classes. So we are getting more of their failed: the progeny of leftists, guerillas, drug users, etc.

    There is no vetting re American ideals not only at the border, but even at the Federal Civil Service level- from Brennan & Comey & the Fed Reserve on down the bureaucrats are chock full of Stalinist admirers.

    I’m sorry that you were sickened, if you tone down the hysterics and think things through before reacting you’ll feel better.

  • Michele K Derry

    I have flown AA & DL both in F Class & DL is by far such a better experience.


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